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Dec 31, 2020
2 min

Ten things I loved in 2020

I laid aside my fears for just long enough to sign my first lease with a partner, in my first relationship with a woman.

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Anna Jolliff

Nov 7, 2020
7 min

Jackie's Story

Far from being “crazy” or “disordered,” Jackie’s symptoms were a sign that she was fully human.

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Anna Jolliff

Sep 5, 2020
4 min

Ex-therapist sees a therapist

This dispassionate and depressed ex-therapist has seen a therapist three times, and a couples therapist another six.

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Anna Jolliff

Jun 12, 2020
3 min

Am I a failure for quitting my job?

I have also bounced between jobs and places and even entire belief systems, waiting for something to feel right.

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I'm right on time, and right where I need to be

Anna Jolliff

May 29, 2020
3 min

I'm right on time, and right where I need to be

The fear of being unfaithful to my calling is something I have thought about every day, usually multiple times per day, since I was 12.

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Anna Jolliff

Mar 6, 2020
4 min

On wanting what you don't have

Happiness isn’t having what you want; it’s wanting what you have. The first time I heard this saying, I agreed. It seems to make sense bo...

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Anna Jolliff

Feb 14, 2020
2 min

Sober on Valentine's Day

Maybe Valentine's Day stress you out. Maybe you can’t imagine a sober one. Or maybe it's no big deal for you; maybe you'd even forgotten ...

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6 things it's hard to say aloud (part 2)

Anna Jolliff

Sep 20, 2019
3 min

6 things it's hard to say aloud (part 2)

On Tuesday, we discussed three things I once struggled to say aloud. As I created this list, I realized that I was quickly listing almost...

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6 things it's hard to say aloud
(part 1)

Anna Jolliff

Sep 17, 2019
3 min

6 things it's hard to say aloud (part 1)

On Sunday, I had the opportunity to share my story in a women’s recovery meeting. These days I rarely get nervous, largely because of th...

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Anna Jolliff

Sep 10, 2019
5 min

This time, with a girl

This story starts on July 20th, 2018. I was interviewing for my current position, and she was asking the questions. At that time in my li...

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Anna Jolliff

Aug 20, 2019
3 min

The beginning of the bottom

Fifteen days before I quit drinking, I saw a dinner invite on my then-boyfriend’s calendar. At the time, we worked at one of those creepy...

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Anna Jolliff

Aug 9, 2019
4 min

How to kick ass at being sad

Last week, I said goodbye to a dear friend. She isn’t dead (and neither am I), but she is leaving. She moved 2,000 miles away to begin me...

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Anna Jolliff

Jul 19, 2019
4 min

All about my worst fear

It’s been a long time since I’ve discussed the Enneagram. In the meantime, I’ve just been four-ing around. You know, feeling feelings, be...

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Anna Jolliff

Jul 12, 2019
4 min

Meditation with an eating disorder

There are a lot of good reasons to avoid working the twelve steps. Certainly, listing out every resentment ever is scary. Undeniably, the...

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Anna Jolliff

Jul 9, 2019
3 min

Confession: I've been forcing it.

Imagine you were asked to complete a 500-piece puzzle. For me, that’s easy enough; as long as I have unlimited time, snacks, and somethin...

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Anna Jolliff

Jul 2, 2019
3 min

When you're 14 and feeling bad

While other kids rebelled through sex, drugs, and rock ‘n’ roll, I set myself apart from my siblings by throwing up average performances ...

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Anna Jolliff

Jun 28, 2019
4 min

I accidentally drank alcohol. Now what?

What happens when an alcoholic accidentally drinks? Today, we're featuring this question from a reader. I'm [name] and I’m an alcoholic. ...

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Anna Jolliff

Jun 21, 2019
2 min

How to spot a geographic cure

In recovery meetings, the topic of “geographic cures” (also called "geographics") comes up quite a lot. Simply put, geographics are atte...

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Read this when you're feeling inadequate.

Anna Jolliff

Jun 11, 2019
4 min

Read this when you're feeling inadequate.

In the last few months of blogging, people have sometimes complimented my willingness to be vulnerable. Good for you, they say. That take...

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Anna Jolliff

Jun 7, 2019
3 min

On trusting others with their own pain

One of my first blog posts focused on being an “empath.” At the time, there was a fundamental question that I was trying - and, in practi...

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